Table of Contents
Also on this website:
SPIRITUALITY: The Role of
Gay Identity in the Transformation of Human Consciousness
Things Our Homosexuality Tells Us about the Nature
of God and the Universe
MATTER: updated, revised & expanded edition from Lethe Press
with Afterword by Mark Jordan
LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE: A romance novel set in the 1980s and the 1890s.
THE FOURTH QUILL, a
novel about attitudinal healing and the problem of evil
TWO SPIRITS: A Story of Life with the
Navajo, a collaboration with Walter L. Williams
CHARMED LIVES: Spinning Straw into
Gold: Reclaiming Our Queer Spirituality Through Story
A NOVEL ABOUT HEALING.
Books on Gay Spirituality:
Crane Gay Spirituality Series
Toby's review of Samuel Avery's The
Dimensional Structure of
Coincidence: "Aliens Settle in San
Simple Answer to the Gay Marriage Debate
Why gay people should NOT Marry
Wedding Cake Liberation
Gay Marriage in Texas
Shame on the American People
The "highest form of love"
Second March on
Bifurcation of Gay Spirituality
cause of homosexuality
origins of homophobia
about Jungian ideas in gay consciousness
What is homosexuality?
is Gay Spirituality?
What Jesus said about Gay
Common Experiences Unique to Gay
Is there a "uniquely gay
The purpose of homosexuality
The Reincarnation of Edward
The Gay Succession
Interview on the Nature of
What the Bible Says about
Mesosexual Ideal for Straight Men
of Gay Spirituality
of Gay Liberation Activity
Why Gay Spirituality: Spirituality
as Artistic Medium
Easton Mountain Retreat Center
Andrew Harvey &
Spirituality Summit in May 2004 and
the "Statement of Spirituality"
"It's Always About You"
The myth of the
Joseph Campbell's description of
Avalokiteshvara at the Baths.
Not A Wave
What is Enlightenment?
What is reincarnation?
How many lifetimes in an ego?
Emptiness & Religious Ideas
Experiencing experiencing experiencing
Going into the Light
Meditations for a Funeral
The way to get to heaven
Buddha's father was right
Advice to Travelers to India
The Danda Nata
& goddess Kalika
Nate Berkus is a bodhisattva
John Boswell was Immanuel Kant
The Two Loves
Toby Johnson Believes
The Joseph Campbell Connection
Campbell & The Pre/Trans Fallacy
The Nature of Religion
What's true about
Gay is a Blessing
Drawing Long Straws
Gay Spiritual Functions
The subtle workings of the spirit in gay men's lives.
The Sinfulness of
for a study of gay nondualism
"The Evolution of Gay Identity"
"St. John of the
Dark Night of the Soul."
Let Me Tell You a Secret
Religious Articulations of the
The Collective Unconscious
Driving as Spiritual Practice
Step in Evolution
The Moulting of the Holy Ghost
is a Bodhisattva
The Hero's Journey as archetype
Immaculate Conception & Assumption
Prostitution and the Nature of Evil
Hu: "God is present here"
The Life is in the Blood
retirement and the "freelance monastery"
Seeing with Different Eyes
experience at the Servites' Castle in Riverside
Great Dance according to C.S.Lewis
The Techniques Of The World Saviors
Part 1: Brer Rabbit and the
Part 2: The
Part 3: Jesus
and the Resurrection
Part 4: A
Course in Miracles
Secret of the Clear Light
Understanding the Clear Light
Souls Get Reincarnated
In honor of Sir Arthur C Clarke
Karellen was a homosexual
About Alien Abduction
are you looking for in a gay science fiction novel?
about Gay Mental Health
Ideas for gay
Kip and Toby,
and nicknamesake Toby Marotta.
Harry Hay, Founder of the gay movement
About Hay and The New Myth
About Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, the first
man to really "come out"
Michael Talbot, gay mystic
About Fr. Bernard Lynch
About Richard Baltzell
About Guy Mannheimer
About David Weyrauch
About Dennis Paddie
About Ask the Fire
About Arthur Evans
About Christopher Larkin
About Sterling Houston
About Michael Stevens
Our friend Tom Nash
Be Done on Earth
by Howard E. Cook
Pay Me What I'm Worth by
The Way Out by Christopher
The Gay Disciple by John Henson
Art That Dares by Kittredge Cherry
Coming Out, Coming Home by Kennth
the Light by B. Alan Bourgeois
Over Coffee: A conversation For Gay
Partnership & Conservative Faith by D.a. Thompson
Dark Knowledge by
Janet Planet by Eleanor
Kairos by Paul E. Hartman
with Jesus by D.K.Maylor
Kali Rising by Rudolph
Missing Myth by Gilles Herrada
Secret of the Second Coming by Howard E. Cook
The Scar Letters: A Novel
by Richard Alther
Future is Queer by Labonte & Schimel
by Charlene Spretnak
Spirituality 101 by Joe Perez
Cut Hand: A
Nineteeth Century Love Story on the American Frontier by Mark Wildyr
by Eleanor Lerman
Rizzoli by Felice Picano
to Unlocking the Closet Door by Chelsea Griffo
The Door of the
Heart by Diana Finfrock Farrar
by David Duncan
and Demion by Mel White
Gay Men and The New Way Forward by Raymond L.
Dimensional Stucture of Consciousness by Samuel Avery
Manly Pursuit of Desire and Love by Perry Brass
People Have Written about Their Visions
had this article on gay retirement
and the freelance monastery posted on my website since fall of 2003.
I've occasionally gotten email from browsers asking if I've made in
progress in establishing such a foundation.
In fact, in the early 2000s, Kip and I
are bound to our hometown in central Texas while Kip acquits familial
duties. We're using this time in limbo to research
possibilities for where our path will lead us next.
Since gay men interested in these ideas
are likely to find this page, I want to use it to help other
people interested in this idea to connect, even if Kip and I aren't in
a position to make our move yet. We don't have to be at the center of
So I'm going to start listing contacts
for people who've written me.
If you're interested in being included,
send me a paragraph or two describing your vision, concept, hopes and
expectations, timeline, financial considerations, ideas for locales,
etc for a gay
retirement project or a "freelance monastery." Be sure to include
information about how to contact you.
I think we'd all be interested in hearing
other men beginning to think about and plan how to adapt their own
dreams to today's--and tomorrow's--world.
I was born in 1946 Rural, east
coast, middle class, Catholic childhood. After military service I
landed in San Francisco in 1969...and the rest is history....
I am now semi retired and reside in a mobile home in Central
Florida. Happy to be living with the man of my dreams, and happy
to at last have time to do.... what??
Sawmill Campground www.flsawmill.com
and similar facilities are opening up around the country. It is a
hot real estate market. I have access to money. Not to enrich my
lifestyle, but to improve the lives of elder gay and bisexuals.
Your ideas parallel my own.
Bruce Simpson, a Bishop
of the Old Catholic Church and a contributor to the gay media regarding
spiritual and religious topics, at firstname.lastname@example.org
My idea was to build/buy a monastery for the
Order that would serve multiple
purposes...i.e. training of new monks, running the Order from it, and a
place of old monks and ultimately a burial place for them. Around
I though we could have a retirement enclave of the glbt community which
monastery could service or not. That way we have the Church as kinda
protector of the retirement community.
An article from the San Francisco
about projects in the Bay Area
(March 30, 2008)
With Baby Boomers moving closer to
retirement, entrepreneurs and community groups are looking to serve
niches within that huge demographic group.
One such niche is retirement communities for lesbian, gay, bisexual and
Nationwide, dozens of groups have tried to build retirement communities
for gays, but only three have opened thus far, according to Gerard
Koskovich, who tracks the subject for the Lesbian and Gay Aging Issues
Aging experts, entrepreneurs and nonprofits say the need is there, but
the challenge is more complex than build it and fill it. They have to
raise money; find an affordable, attractive, gay-friendly locale; and
motivate people who, like all seniors, might want or need anything from
Pilates classes to nursing care.
In the past decade, at least 40 ideas for gay senior housing have come
up, but many stalled in the planning. So far, an upscale project in
Santa Fe, N.M., that opened in 2006 has had difficulty filling. An
affordable complex that opened in 2007 in Hollywood has had more
Despite that national track record for gay senior housing, three Bay
Area projects are moving closer to reality after years of planning.
Each of the three - Barbary Lane in Oakland, Openhouse in San Francisco
and Fountaingrove Lodge in Santa Rosa - has a different business model.
Nevertheless, each is premised on the concept that many gays want to
spend their retirement years in places where they're comfortable being
Accustomed to being out of the closet, they don't want to go back into
it for fear of rejection or discrimination at a retirement center. They
go along with Barbary Lane's motto, "Closets are for clothes, not
Because of anti-discrimination laws, none of the projects is
exclusively gay. Straight people may move in, too, but the projects
bill themselves as gay-friendly.
San Francisco's Openhouse
Openhouse expects to take a big step forward Tuesday afternoon when the
San Francisco Board of Supervisors is tentatively scheduled to approve
its land-use plan.
"This represents three years of getting the project through the city
process," said Moli Steinert, executive director of the nonprofit
Openhouse will be part of a larger rental project being developed by AF
Evans on the site of the former UC Berkeley Extension campus at 55
Laguna St. Evans is preserving three buildings there and converting
them to housing.
New construction will include Openhouse's eight-story building with up
to 88 independent living studio and one-bedroom apartments for gays and
lesbians 55 and older, Steinert said.
Although earlier plans had called for only some of the apartments to be
affordable, now all of them will be affordable because the Mayor's
Office of Housing is financing the long-term ground lease. "The city
made an extraordinary move," Steinert said. Other financing is expected
to come from low-interest bonds.
Exact income figures for affordability are undecided, but Steinert said
they will be no more than 50 percent of the area's median income.
Evans also will build 328 apartments for people of all ages, whether
straight or gay. Most of the units will be market rate, but 20 percent
will be set aside as affordable. A community center, small park and
public garden are planned, too.
Work is tentatively scheduled to start this fall. Openhouse's building,
foreseen in the second phase of work, might start in late 2009 with the
hoped-for opening in 2011.
Besides the apartments, Openhouse wants to provide services like meal
and day health programs for its residents and neighboring seniors.
To serve residents who need in-home health help, Openhouse is working
with the Institute on Aging, which has case-management services.
For the benefit of other gay seniors who need the in-home services,
Openhouse is cooperating with the city's Department of Aging and Adult
Services to teach service workers "LGBT best practices," Steinert said.
Finally, Openhouse has started a community outreach program for
isolated seniors. It began in Bernal Heights, where gay people of all
ages were invited to a meeting and asked to be aware of gay senior
neighbors who might need help, such as referral to the Bernal Heights
The outreach program will move to the Castro district and Noe Valley,
which have many gay residents. "People are fired up," Steinert said.
In the process, Openhouse can see where gay seniors are clustered into
"naturally occurring retirement communities," she said.
Oakland's barbary lane
The Bay Area gay retirement community that's closest to welcoming its
first residents is Barbary Lane, an independent living center in the
historic Lake Merritt Hotel at 1800 Madison St., Oakland.
Barbary Lane Senior Communities at Lake Merritt, a for-profit company,
is transforming the 81-year-old Art Deco gem into 46 studio and
one-bedroom apartments for people ages 55 and older.
After introducing Barbary Lane to the public in June, the developer had
hoped to welcome the first residents in November.
That projection proved overly optimistic. The developer had planned to
keep the original kitchens, but it convened a focus group that said
people want updated kitchens.
Going along with that recommendation added four months to the
construction schedule and $1 million to the budget, said Dave Latina,
president of Barbary Management Group, the developer and operator.
Renegotiating the construction loan took four months, delaying work on
the kitchens until last fall.
The developer had already planned to replace the six-story building's
elevator to meet accessibility standards, but that work took three
months longer than projected because the state required extensive
upgrading for the elevator shaft, he said.
Latina expects the state to approve the elevator work in early April,
allowing the nine people who have reserved apartments to move in to
them in May and June. He expects two or three move-ins each month after
that. He added that the number of people who have reserved apartments
meets industry standards.
Because of the delays, the developer isn't actively marketing the
project, "but we're still getting calls," Latina said. "We see people
coming to us."
Barbary Lane is named after 28 Barbary Lane, home of the fictional
central character Mrs. Madrigal in author Armistead Maupin's "Tales of
the City," a popular Chronicle series that started in 1976. The series
was followed by six "Tales of the City" books and updated in Maupin's
newest book, "Michael Tolliver Lives."
Barbary Lane residents will have two meals a day in the hotel's
restaurant, which overlooks the lake. Among other basic services will
be weekly housekeeping, utilities, social activities and transportation.
Santa Rosa's Fountaingrove
Fountaingrove Lodge is not as far along as the other two projects. This
continuing care retirement community is planned by Aegis Senior
Communities, a for-profit company that develops and operates dozens of
retirement facilities in the West. Fountaingrove Lodge will be its
first for gays.
Aegis has submitted its development plans to the city of Santa Rosa,
but no date has been set for them to go to the Planning Commission.
Aegis hopes to start construction within the next year or so. The
project will have 148 cottages, apartments and flats for independent
As residents' needs change, they can have health services in their
homes or in an on-site assisted living center. Fountaingrove also will
provide Alzheimer's and dementia care. Therefore, residents won't have
to leave friends and familiar surroundings if they require more care.
New residents pay entrance fees that could range from $350,000 to $1
million, depending on the type of residence, The Chronicle reported in
October 2006. Up to 100 percent of the fee is returned to the resident
or his estate when he dies or moves out.
Residents also pay a monthly fee, which, in conjunction with the
entrance fee, covers rent, most meals, housekeeping, utilities, upkeep
and maintenance of buildings and grounds, transportation, and use of
services and amenities. It's expected to range from $2,700 to $4,900,
plus $700 for a second person, The Chronicle reported.
Barbary Lane's Latina said that even though relatively few gay
retirement projects have opened thus far, he believes the demand is
there. Despite the delays at his project, "we have not seen people's
One of the problems nationally is that unlike Openhouse, which is
deemed affordable, most of the projects are geared to middle- and
upper-income gays, but there's a demand for more-affordable models.
"You can never build enough" of them, Latina said. He added that his
company hopes to build five more Barbary Lane communities in California
and to make some of the units affordable to lower-income gays.
or more information
Barbary Lane: www.barbarylanesenior.com, (510) 903-3600
www.fountaingrovelodge.com, (707) 576-1101
Openhouse: www.openhouse-sf.org, (415) 296-8995
Chronicle news services contributed to this report. E-mail Judy Richter
This article appeared on page K - 8 of the San Francisco Chronicle
you'd like to follow them now, here are the links that were given on
the previous page:
project at www.ourtownvillages.com,
to create gay and lesbian rural and urban "villages" according to a
sort of apartment complex model.
monastery" I wrote about in my never-published novel AWAKENING.
description of the fictional
Clear Light Colony (based on Edward Carpenter's Millthorpe Farm) in
Perspective, CO in my novel GETTING LIFE