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Finding Your Own True Myth - The Myth of the Great Secret III

FINDING YOUR OWN TRUE MYTH: What I Learned from Joseph Campbell: The Myth of the Great Secret III

Gay Spirituality

GAY SPIRITUALITY: The Role of Gay Identity in the Transformation of Human Consciousness

Gay Perspective

GAY PERSPECTIVE: Things Our Homosexuality Tells Us about the Nature of God and the Universe

Secret Matter

SECRET MATTER, a sci-fi novel with wonderful "aliens" with an Afterword by Mark Jordan

Getting Life

GETTING LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE:  A Fantastical Gay Romance set in two different time periods

The Fourth Quill

THE FOURTH QUILL, a novel about attitudinal healing and the problem of evil

Two Spirits
TWO SPIRITS: A Story of Life with the Navajo, a collaboration with Walter L. Williams

charmed lives
CHARMED LIVES: Spinning Straw into Gold: GaySpirit in Storytelling, a collaboration with Steve Berman and some 30 other writers

Myth of the Great Secret

THE MYTH OF THE GREAT SECRET: An Appreciation of Joseph Campbell

In Search of God


Finding God


Unpublished manuscripts

About ordering

Books on Gay Spirituality:

White Crane Gay Spirituality Series

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  Articles and Excerpts:

Review of Samuel Avery's The Dimensional Structure of Consciousness

Funny Coincidence: "Aliens Settle in San Francisco"

About Liberty Books, the Lesbian/Gay Bookstore for Austin, 1986-1996

The Simple Answer to the Gay Marriage Debate

A Bifurcation of Gay Spirituality

Why gay people should NOT Marry

The Scriptural Basis for Same Sex Marriage

Toby and Kip Get Married

Wedding Cake Liberation

Gay Marriage in Texas

What's ironic

Shame on the American People

The "highest form of love"

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Gay Consciousness

Why homosexuality is a sin

The cause of homosexuality

The origins of homophobia

Advice to Future Gay Historians

Q&A about Jungian ideas in gay consciousness

What is homosexuality?

What is Gay Spirituality?

My three messages

What Jesus said about Gay Rights

Queering religion

Common Experiences Unique to Gay Men

Is there a "uniquely gay perspective"?

The purpose of homosexuality

Interview on the Nature of Homosexuality

What the Bible Says about Homosexuality

Mesosexual Ideal for Straight Men

Varieties of Gay Spirituality

Waves of Gay Liberation Activity

The Gay Succession

Wouldn’t You Like to Be Uranian?

The Reincarnation of Edward Carpenter

Queer men, myths and Reincarnation

Was I (or you) at Stonewall?

Why Gay Spirituality: Spirituality as Artistic Medium

Easton Mountain Retreat Center

Andrew Harvey & Spiritual Activism

The Mysticism of Andrew Harvey

The upsidedown book on MSNBC

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"It's Always About You"

The myth of the Bodhisattva Avalokitesvara

Joseph Campbell's description of Avalokiteshvara

The Nature of Suffering and The Four Quills

You're Not A Wave

Joseph Campbell Talks about Aging

Toby's Experience of Zen

What is Enlightenment?

What is reincarnation?

What happens at Death?

How many lifetimes in an ego?

Emptiness & Religious Ideas

Experiencing experiencing experiencing

Going into the Light

Meditations for a Funeral

Meditation Practice

The way to get to heaven

Buddha's father was right

What Anatman means

Advice to Travelers to India & Nepal

The Danda Nata & goddess Kalika

A Funny Story: The Rug Salesmen of Istanbul

Nate Berkus is a bodhisattva

John Boswell was Immanuel Kant

Cutting edge realization

The Myth of the Wanderer

Change: Source of Suffering & of Bliss

World Navel

What the Vows Really Mean

Manifesting from the Subtle Realms

The Three-layer Cake & the Multiverse

The est Training and Personal Intention

Effective Dreaming in Ursula LeGuin's The Lathe of Heaven

Drawing a Long Straw: Ketamine at the Mann Ranch

Alan Watts & Multiple Solipsism

How I Learned Chakra Meditation

Je ne Regrette Rien

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Gay Spirituality

Curious Bodies

What Toby Johnson Believes

The Joseph Campbell Connection

The Mann Ranch (& Rich Gabrielson)

Campbell & The Pre/Trans Fallacy

The Two Loves

The Nature of Religion

What's true about Religion

Being Gay is a Blessing

Drawing Long Straws

Freedom of Religion

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The Gay Agenda

Gay Saintliness

Gay Spiritual Functions

The subtle workings of the spirit in gay men's lives.

The Sinfulness of Homosexuality

Proposal for a study of gay nondualism

Priestly Sexuality

Having a Church to Leave

Harold Cole on Beauty

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Marian Doctrines: Immaculate Conception & Assumption

Not lashed to the prayer-post

Monastic or Chaste Homosexuality

The Monastic Schedule: a whimsy

Is It Time to Grow Up? Confronting the Aging Process

Notes on Licking  (July, 1984)

Redeem Orlando

Gay Consciousness changing the world by Shokti LoveStar

Alexander Renault interviews Toby Johnson

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Mystical Vision

"The Evolution of Gay Identity"

"St. John of the Cross & the Dark Night of the Soul."

Avalokiteshvara at the Baths

 Eckhart's Eye

Let Me Tell You a Secret

Religious Articulations of the Secret

The Collective Unconscious

Driving as Spiritual Practice


Historicity as Myth


No Stealing

Next Step in Evolution

The New Myth

The Moulting of the Holy Ghost

Gaia is a Bodhisattva

Sex with God

Merging Religion and Sex

Revolution Through Consciousness Change: GSV 2019

God as Metaphor

More Metaphors for God

A non-personal metaphor God

Jesus and the Wedding Feast

Tonglen in the Radisson Varanasi

The Closet of Horrors

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The Hero's Journey

The Hero's Journey as archetype -- GSV 2016

The  Gay Hero Journey (shortened)

You're On Your Own


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Seeing Differently

Teenage Prostitution and the Nature of Evil

Allah Hu: "God is present here"

Adam and Steve

The Life is in the Blood

Gay retirement and the "freelance monastery"

Seeing with Different Eyes

Facing the Edge: AIDS as an occasion for spiritual wisdom

What are you looking for in a gay science fiction novel?

A Different Take on Leathersex

Seeing Pornography Differently

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The Vision

The mystical experience at the Servites'  Castle in Riverside

A  Most Remarkable Synchronicity in Riverside

The Great Dance according to C.S.Lewis

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The Techniques Of The World Saviors

Part 1: Brer Rabbit and the Tar-Baby

Part 2: The Bodhisattva Avalokiteshvara

Part 3: Jesus and the Resurrection

Part 4: A Course in Miracles

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The Secret of the Clear Light

Understanding the Clear Light

Mobius Strip

Finding Your Tiger Face

How Gay Souls Get Reincarnated

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Joseph Campbell, the Hero's Journey, and the modern Gay Hero-- a five part presentation on YouTube

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About Alien Abduction

In honor of Sir Arthur C Clarke

Karellen was a homosexual

The D.A.F.O.D.I.L. Alliance

Intersections with the movie When We Rise

More about Gay Mental Health

Psych Tech Training

Toby at the California Institute

The Rainbow Flag

Ideas for gay mythic stories

My first Peace March

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Kip and Toby, Activists

Toby's friend and nicknamesake Toby Marotta.

Harry Hay, Founder of the gay movement

About Hay and The New Myth

About Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, the first man to really "come out"

About Michael Talbot, gay mystic

About Fr. Bernard Lynch

About Richard Baltzell

About Guy Mannheimer

About David Weyrauch

About Dennis Paddie

About Ask the Fire

About Arthur Evans

About Christopher Larkin

About Mark Thompson

About Sterling Houston

About Michael Stevens

The Alamo Business Council

Our friend Tom Nash

Our friend Cliff Douglas

Second March on Washington

The Gay Spirituality Summit in May 2004 and the "Statement of Spirituality"

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Book Reviews

Be Done on Earth by Howard E. Cook

Pay Me What I'm Worth by Souldancer

The Way Out by Christopher L  Nutter

The Gay Disciple by John Henson

Art That Dares by Kittredge Cherry

Coming Out, Coming Home by Kennth A. Burr

Extinguishing the Light by B. Alan Bourgeois

Over Coffee: A conversation For Gay Partnership & Conservative Faith by D.a. Thompson

Dark Knowledge by Kenneth Low

Janet Planet by Eleanor Lerman

The Kairos by Paul E. Hartman

Wrestling with Jesus by D.K.Maylor

Kali Rising by Rudolph Ballentine

The Missing Myth by Gilles Herrada

The Secret of the Second Coming by Howard E. Cook

The Scar Letters: A Novel by Richard Alther

The Future is Queer by Labonte & Schimel

Missing Mary by Charlene Spretnak

Gay Spirituality 101 by Joe Perez

Cut Hand: A Nineteeth Century Love Story on the American Frontier by Mark Wildyr

Radiomen by Eleanor Lerman

Nights at Rizzoli by Felice Picano

The Key to Unlocking the Closet Door by Chelsea Griffo

The Door of the Heart by Diana Finfrock Farrar

Occam’s Razor by David Duncan

Grace and Demion by Mel White

Gay Men and The New Way Forward by Raymond L. Rigoglioso

The Dimensional Stucture of Consciousness by Samuel Avery

The Manly Pursuit of Desire and Love by Perry Brass

Love Together: Longtime Male Couples on Healthy Intimacy and Communication by Tim Clausen

War Between Materialism and Spiritual by Jean-Michel Bitar

The Serpent's Gift: Gnostic Reflections on the Study of Religion by Jeffrey J. Kripal

Esalen: America and the Religion of No Religion by Jeffrey J. Kripal

The Invitation to Love by Darren Pierre

Brain, Consciousness, and God: A Lonerganian Integration by Daniel A Helminiak

A Walk with Four Spiritual Guides by Andrew Harvey

Can Christians Be Saved? by Stephenson & Rhodes

The Lost Secrets of the Ancient Mystery Schools by Stephenson & Rhodes

Keys to Spiritual Being: Energy Meditation and Synchronization Exercises by Adrian Ravarour

In Walt We Trust by John Marsh

Solomon's Tantric Song by Rollan McCleary

A Special Illumination by Rollan McCleary

Aelred's Sin by Lawrence Scott

Fruit Basket by Payam Ghassemlou

Internal Landscapes by John Ollom

Princes & Pumpkins by David Hatfield Sparks

Yes by Brad Boney

Blood of the Goddess by William Schindler

Roads of Excess, Palaces of Wisdom by Jeffrey Kripal

Evolving Dharma by Jay Michaelson

Jesus in Salome's Lot by Brett W. Gillette

The Man Who Loved Birds by Fenton Johnson

The Vatican Murders by Lucien Gregoire

"Sex Camp" by Brian McNaught

Out & About with Brewer & Berg
Episode One: Searching for a New Mythology

The Soul Beneath the Skin by David Nimmons

Out on Holy Ground by Donald Boisvert

The Revotutionary Psychology of Gay-Centeredness by Mitch Walker

Out There by Perry Brass

The Crucifixion of Hyacinth by Geoff Puterbaugh

The Silence of Sodom by Mark D Jordan

It's Never About What It's About by Krandall Kraus and Paul Borja

ReCreations, edited by Catherine Lake

Gospel: A Novel by WIlton Barnhard

Keeping Faith: A Skeptic’s Journey by Fenton Johnson

Dating the Greek Gods by Brad Gooch

Telling Truths in Church by Mark D. Jordan

The Substance of God by Perry Brass

The Tomcat Chronicles by Jack Nichols

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives by Joe Kort

Jesus and the Shamanic Tradition of Same Sex Love by Will Roscoe

The Third Appearance by Walter Starcke

The Last Hours of Ancient Sunlight by Thom Hartmann

Surviving and Thriving After a Life-Threatening Diagnosis by Bev Hall

Men, Homosexuality, and the Gods by Ronald Long

An Interview with Ron Long

Queering Creole Spiritual Traditons by Randy Conner & David Sparks

An Interview with Randy Conner

Pain, Sex and Time by Gerald Heard

Sex and the Sacred by Daniel Helminiak

Blessing Same-Sex Unions by Mark Jordan

Rising Up by Joe Perez

Soulfully Gay by Joe Perez

That Undeniable Longing by Mark Tedesco

Vintage: A Ghost Story by Steve Berman

Wisdom for the Soul by Larry Chang

MM4M a DVD by Bruce Grether

Double Cross by David Ranan

The Transcended Christian by Daniel Helminiak

Jesus in Love by Kittredge Cherry

In the Eye of the Storm by Gene Robinson

The Starry Dynamo by Sven Davisson

Life in Paradox by Fr Paul Murray

Spirituality for Our Global Community by Daniel Helminiak

Gay & Healthy in a Sick Society by Robert A. Minor

Coming Out: Irish Gay Experiences by Glen O'Brien

Queering Christ by Robert Goss

Skipping Towards Gomorrah by Dan Savage

The Flesh of the Word by Richard A Rosato

Catland by David Garrett Izzo

Tantra for Gay Men by Bruce Anderson

Yoga & the Path of the Urban Mystic by Darren Main

Simple Grace by Malcolm Boyd

Seventy Times Seven by Salvatore Sapienza

What Does "Queer" Mean Anyway? by Chris Bartlett

Critique of Patriarchal Reasoning by Arthur Evans

Gift of the Soul by Dale Colclasure & David Jensen

Legend of the Raibow Warriors by Steven McFadden

The Liar's Prayer by Gregory Flood

Lovely are the Messengers by Daniel Plasman

The Human Core of Spirituality by Daniel Helminiak

3001: The Final Odyssey by Arthur C. Clarke

Religion and the Human Sciences by Daniel Helminiak

Only the Good Parts by Daniel Curzon

Four Short Reviews of Books with a Message

Life Interrupted by Michael Parise

Confessions of a Murdered Pope by Lucien Gregoire

The Stargazer's Embassy by Eleanor Lerman

Conscious Living, Conscious Aging by Ron Pevny

Footprints Through the Desert by Joshua Kauffman

True Religion by J.L. Weinberg

The Mediterranean Universe by John Newmeyer

Everything is God by Jay Michaelson

Reflection by Dennis Merritt

Everywhere Home by Fenton Johnson

Hard Lesson by James Gaston

God vs Gay? by Jay Michaelson

The Gate of Tears: Sadness and the Spiritual Path by Jay Michaelson

Roxie & Fred by Richard Alther

Not the Son He Expected by Tim Clausen

The 9 Realities of Stardust by Bruce P. Grether

The Afterlife Revolution by Anne & Whitley Strieber

AIDS Shaman: Queer Spirit Awakening by Shokti Lovestar

Facing the Truth of Your Life by Merle Yost

The Super Natural by Whitley Strieber & Jeffrey J Kripal

Secret Body by Jeffrey J Kripal

In Hitler's House by Jonathan Lane

Walking on Glory by Edward Swift

The Paradox of Porn by Don Shewey

Is Heaven for Real? by Lucien Gregoire

In Search of Lost Lives by Michael Goddart

Queer Magic by Tomas Prower

God in Your Body by Jay Michaelson

Science Whispering Spirit by Gary Preuss

Friends of Dorothy by Dee Michel

New by Whitley Strieber

Developing Supersensible Perception by Shelli Renee Joye

Sage Sapien by Johnson Chong

Tarot of the Future by Arthur Rosengarten

Brothers Across Time by Brad Boney

Impresario of Castro Street by Marc Huestis

Deathless by Andrew Ramer

The Pagan Heart of the West, Vol 1 by Randy P. Conner

Practical Tantra by William Schindler

The Flip by Jeffrey J. Kripal

A New World by Whitley Strieber

Bernhard & LightWing by Damien Rowse

The Mountains of Paris by David Oates

Trust Truth by Trudie Barreras

How to be an Excellent Human Being by Bill Meacham

The Deviant's War by Eric Cervini

What Is the Grass by Mark Doty

Sex with God by Suzanne DeWitt Hall

The Sum of All the Pieces by Paul Bradford

All the Time in the World by J. Lee Graham

Scissors, Paper, Rock by Fenton Johnson

Toby Johnson's Books on Gay Men's Spiritualities:

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Gay Perspective

Things Our [Homo]sexuality
Tells Us about the
Nature of God and
the Universe

Gay Perspective audiobook
Gay Perspective is available as an audiobook narrated by Matthew Whitfield. Click here

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Gay Spirituality

Gay Identity and 
the Transformation of
Human Consciousness

Gay Spirituality   is now available as an audiobook, beautifully narrated by John Sipple. Click here

charmed lives
Charmed Lives: Gay Spirit in Storytelling

edited by
Toby Johnson
& Steve Berman

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Secret Matter

Lammy Award Winner for Gay Science Fiction


Getting Life
Getting Life in Perspective

A Fantastical Romance

Life in Perspective audiobook
Getting Life in Perspective is available as an audiobook narrated by Alex Beckham. Click here 

The Fourth Quill

The Fourth Quill

originally published as PLAGUE

The Fourth Quill is available as an audiobook, narrated by Jimmie Moreland. Click here

Two Spirits: A Story of Life with the Navajo

with Walter L. Williams

Two Spirits
audiobookTwo Spirits  is available as an audiobook  narrated by Arthur Raymond. Click here

Finding Your Own True Myth - The Myth of the Great Secret III
Finding Your Own True Myth: What I Learned from Joseph Campbell

The Myth of the Great Secret III

Search of God in the Sexual Underworld
In Search of God  in the Sexual Underworld

Finding God
Finding God In The Sexual Underworld: The Journey Expanded

2020 Revised Version

The Myth of the Great Secret II

The Myth of the Great Secret: An Appreciation of Joseph Campbell.

This was the second edition of this book.

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Toby Johnson's titles are available in other ebook formats from Smashwords.

Gay Perspective

3 sources of Gay Perspective

1) We are outsiders. We see with critical distance.

    We are taught and/or discover as youth how to distance ourselves from other people. We learn to keep secrets. We learn to second-guess other people. We learn to be suspect of what they say is true (because it isn’t true for us)

We understood things differently from the other boys & girls—especially about gender-role behavior in play and sports (We sometimes got in trouble for not behaving appropriately—“throwing the ball like a girl.”)

    We were more artistic or talented. Many of us were teachers’ pets—not so much because we were competitive and wanted to win, but because we were sensitive and wanted to be loved and thought well of by our teachers. We were “best little boys in the world.”

    We often felt we had a secret. And sometimes explained this to ourselves as magical or as religious. We may have had a special relationship with God, since only God could be allowed to know the truth—and this was something all deeply involved with God and the meaning of life.

We learned to think of ourselves as special – not necessarily better, just different, but different for reasons of deep personal significance.

We were different from our parents and families. Even those of us who understood what “gay” was and understood that it was sexual orientation, and even those who felt accepted as gay, still we were going to be different from the role models offered to us. We had no role models.

Perhaps we had to figure out how we fit into the big picture, by forcing open the big picture, to make it yet bigger to include us.

Perhaps we saw that religion was wrong about important things. And if they were wrong about things that could be seen, how could we think they were right about the things that couldn’t be seen.

2) We tend to embody both masculine and feminine viewpoints and characteristics.

We can empathize with both men and women. We tend to see beyond the gender role constraints.

We’re often less inhibited.

See how straight men are so constrained by their masculinity. The joke is about walking like you’ve got a broomstick up your ass. Straight men have to protect themselves even from their own self-perceptions. And they can never let their guard down.

We are often fascinated by gender role transgression. It’s fun and funny to dress up – maybe especially because it is taboo and the others can’t do it.

We’re more comfortable in our bodies. We’re more emotional. More in touch with feelings (perhaps after having gone through a crisis of depression and denial of feelings). We cry more easily at movies.

We’re less likely to worry about looking masculine, as looking sexually attractive. We worry less about that other men think of us as manly and more about whether they’re sexually attracted to us.

We’re likely to be less violent, and less likely to connect into competition and impersonal loyalty (like to a sports team).

There’s a simplicity and innocence to gay consciousness. Our sexual feelings for our own bodies and our sexual feelings for others’ bodies are the same. Sex and affection are more playful and less serious because they aren’t about procreation and family.

We don’t go through a stage of reorienting our affectional and emotional feelings from our same sex friends to members of the opposite sex which straight boys have to do, whom they don’t understand and find attractive but incomprehensible.

We don’t experience the inner conflict that straight men must between their sexual perceptions of their own bodies – which is essentially homosexual—and their public identity as heterosexual.

Because gay people blend gender, you might say we’re liberated from gender. We don’t have to be men or be women. We’re just ourselves.

3) We don’t experience the world as polarized.

This is a major point and very subtle.

Because we’re not attracted across the sexual divide of male and female, we don’t have to see the world as divided between warring and competing factions.

We’re not caught in the battle of the sexes.

Of course, not all homosexuals are so liberated. And the us against them of homophobia and the obsessive polarization between homosexuality and heterosexuality creates a dualistic view.

But note that male and female are exclusive categories. Gay and straight are not. The dualities we DO experience are like left and right, voluntary and autonomic, objective and subjective. These are binaries, but they’re not in conflict. They’re like the inside and the outside of a cup. They are not at odds.

This third aspect of gay consciousness—non-duality—encompasses the first two aspects: outsideredness and genderlessness. Genderlessness is outsiderness is perspective.

This sort of nonduality is the goal of many of the mystical traditions. In overcoming the duality of male and female, we potentially overcome the duality of good and evil and of God and the world.

Instead of seeing the world as the ever changing, ever-balancing, ever fluid interplay of the polarities of masculinity and femininity, creativity and receptivity, we can perceive the world as unity.

St Paul says there is a mystical parallel between the relationship of male and female and of God and the Church (i.e. God and the world). These dualities relate as complements.

We see the world as God sees the world, as a reflection of self in eternity and stillness.

Our vision of God then isn’t as an Other, but as the deepest Self. This is a whole different way of seeing life and existence. This is a different kind of God.

This vision sees the gray, not the black and white. So we aren’t so caught up in contradiction. We can think both literally and figuratively at the same time. We can see that it’s possible to be right and wrong at the same time. I.e., we can rise above right and wrong and understand both sides from a higher perspective.

Implications of nonpolarization:

Our humor is subtle and is about seeming contradiction.
Camp humor toys with irony and duality.
We make fun of people who take things too seriously.

Especially, we make fun of “straight values” and the male dominance imperatives of: male domination and control, competition, hierarchy, scarcity, polarity, and the existence of good and evil.

We can see through and beyond these assumptions that everybody else makes.

I want to argue here that being gay is more basic than sex.

I don’t mean  to generalize from a single example, but the single example of Ginger the transsexual at BAGL (in 1976) reveals how changing sex doesn’t change sexual orientation. Ginger was an archetype of this phenomenon. He went from being a homosexual male to being a homosexual female. Homosexuality—i.e, seeing the world in a less polarized way and being attracted to the unity of the Self –is more basic than sexual attraction.

This seeing the Self in self and others is what Harry Hay called Subject-subject consciousness. We can readily identify with other men. We can empathize with their feelings, because they’re similar to our own.

Straight men have a harder time. “You can’t live with ’em and you can’t live without ’em” they say about women.

Conventional straight male thinking says: I’m right and you’re wrong. Nonpolarity thinking transforms that: “We’re both right and we’re both wrong from different perspectives. We don’t have to quarrel. You can do your thing; I can do mine.

Both/And instead of Either/or. Here was one of the lessons of est and all of New Age consciousness.

To use one of those old est expressions: “making other people wrong” is how polarization creates animosity and justifies enmity and misunderstanding.
George Bush and the War on Terror in thbe early 2000s was an example of how this goes wrong – “You’re either with me or you’re my enemy.” Bad parallel structure and bad politics.

Belief in God is like that as well. From a nonpolarized perspective you can believe in God AND see that God is a metaphor.

The Four Ways Our Homosexuality Tells Us Things

1) The very existence of homosexuality demonstrates that nature isn’t polarized

Sex isn’t exclusively about reproduction. There are important aspects of sex that are about consciousness and spiritual/mystical vision.

Pleasure is a good thing, a part of the universe.

The world isn’t about efficiency.

Bruce Bagemihl tells us about homosexuality among the animals. He hypothesizes “Survival of the fittest isn’t Earth’s primary house rule—rather, survival of the flamboyant and exuberant. It is numerousness and diversity that guide evolution.”

Bagemihl proposes that sexual variance is a necessary implication of diversity and mutation. Homosexuality is part of the fabric of the universe because if it weren’t the exuberance and flamboyance that drive evolution wouldn’t be possible. “The equation of life turns on both prodigious fecundity and fruitless prodigality.” (He uses the example of the multitude of baby turtles or the multitude of sperm cells in a male ejaculation.)

2) Our actual experience as gay shows us things about life.

We experience being different. We tend to be childless—though not necessarily. And so less concerned about an investment in the next generation. We don’t seek to achieve immortality through offspring. (This is the point of the celibate priesthood in Roman Catholicism.)

We can be morally driven in a different way because we don’t have responsibilities to the next generation: we can say NO for instance to a job in the atomic bomb plant that a straight man with a family can’t. We can rock the boat in a way he can’t.

Our lives prove that coupling is not just about building a nest for family. That love is about companionship. People need somebody to talk to in order to fully experience their experience. The beauty of a sunset, for instance.

We can see that love and sex are separable and not at odds. We don’t have to divorce if our partner has outside sex. We are freed from adultery, because our sex isn’t genetically significant.
(This isn’t a justification for hurting one’s partner by “infidelity” but it is offering a different meaning for “fidelity” and “monogamy.”)
We live more in our bodies and more in the present.

3) Dealing with the current circumstances of gay life teaches us practical lessons about contemporary problems.

Dealing with same-sex marriage, for instance, has forced us all to think more deeply and incisively about what marriage and coupling is.

We don’t take things for granted the same way the masses do.

One of the current issues, of course, has been AIDS.

    a) call to compassion
    b) recognize the existence of a disease in the third world.
    c) disease is caused by microorganisms not taboo violations
    d) health care provision needs improvement
    e) research has been done into the immune system (something drug companies had not been motivated to do)
    f) an acute sense of mortality
    g) it’s ok to die – “live fast, die young”

Our experience tells us you can’t trust the media to report the truth because they don’t tell the truth about OUR issues.

You can’t trust the police or the government.

The fact of gay liberation shows things are changing. Life now is different from life in the 1950s!!

Sexual liberation relieves an enormous burden of neurosis. Openly gay, proud and self-affirming people live better, less neurotic lives.

4) We know things by gay intuition.
        Gay taste and sensitivity to style. Artistic talent
    A common tendency to like movies and remember certain lines: “I’m ready for my close-up now, Mr. DeMille.” “Fasten your seatbelts; it’s going to be bumpy night.”

    Growing up we train ourselves to be “intuitive” as a defense mechanism. And because we blend gender, we’re more likely to accept “feminine intuition” in our male self-image.

    Gaydar is the prime example.

    Gaydar demonstrates two things:
Homosexuality is so basic it alters our physical appearance. I.e., it’s not a “choice
        People give off vibes.

Read: Toby Johnson's article about  Common Experiences
Unique to Gay Men

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Toby Johnson, PhD is author of nine books: three non-fiction books that apply the wisdom of his teacher and "wise old man," Joseph Campbell to modern-day social and religious problems, four gay genre novels that dramatize spiritual issues at the heart of gay identity, and two books on gay men's spiritualities and the mystical experience of homosexuality and editor of a collection of "myths" of gay men's consciousness. 

Johnson's book GAY SPIRITUALITY: The Role of Gay Identity in the Transformation of Human Consciousness won a Lambda Literary Award in 2000.

His  GAY PERSPECTIVE: Things Our [Homo]sexuality Tells Us about the Nature of God and the Universe was nominated for a Lammy in 2003. They remain in print.

FINDING YOUR OWN TRUE MYTH: What I Learned from Joseph Campbell: The Myth of the Great Secret III tells the story of Johnson's learning the real nature of religion and myth and discovering the spiritual qualities of gay male consciousness.

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